As the cliche goes, you are who your friends are. As much as we like to believe that nothing or no-one can influence us, this is simply not true. Who do you want to be? What are you aspiring to do? Where are you going? Ask yourself those questions when choosing your friends. Chances are, if the people you surround yourself are striving for the same thing as you, you are more likely to get to where you intend to get to.
I have had a lot of friends in my life and I have lost a lot of friends in my life. I like to think of my friendships as a circle within a circle. Who is on the inner circle? Who do you trust with your deepest and darkest secrets? For me, there may only be two or three people within that inner circle, and that’s okay, you can’t share your life with everyone. My middle circle is wider, these people sometimes are the biggest influences as they are usually your social group or close peers at school or work. Be careful with who you let in to this middle section of your life. There were some points where I had to leave these friends at the school gates (not literally, but metaphorically) because their behaviours and opinions would influence me so much due to spending countless hours with them. The outer cirlce, while still important, has more room for casual friendships. Your friends of friends, the guy or girl you pop up to on snap once a year on their birthday and perhaps even people in your class or on your university course are some of the people that might fall into this category.
It is inevitable that the amount of people decrease as you get deeper into the centre circle but that is also where the deeper, truer and more meaningful friendships lay. Choose wisely, because who you surround yourself with has a big impact on your mood and character. Friendships are so beautiful, so let’s make them worthwhile.